When it comes to the so-called Mommy Wars, Rosa makes a perfectly good point: that the catfight between working and nonworking mothers is really a creation of the media. Whether a mom works to pay the bills or stay at home to care for the kids, it’s tough going these days. I totally agree.
So in Rosa’s world, someone else must be to blame. Ah yes, let’s take the quick swipe at men. Below, she’s referring to moms when their careers run into the American male:
Their bosses scowl when they ask for more child-friendly work arrangements. Their male colleagues have wives who handle snow days, birthday parties and children who throw up at 3 a.m. But with rare exceptions, their husbands are bewildered or resistant when asked to take on more of the child-care duties. In the end, exhaustion and frustration force most into choosing between family and career.
What a bunch of sexist crap. Men are “bewildered or resistant,” when asked to take on more? Maybe in your elevated circles, Rosa, but not in all circles of American life.
My male friends work full-time jobs, come home to do the laundry, play with their kids and fix the broken sink. Many have reported lack of sleep as they cleaned up their children’s midnight vomit. And I know men who stay at home to raise the children while their wives work hard for the money.
I’ve worked in departments where the men have to work the dreaded night shift every six weeks while women are allowed out of the rotation because they have children. What, my kids are somehow less important?
Are there bad men, Rosa? Why yes, there are a lot of them. Are there bad women, Rosa? Why yes, there are a lot of them.
So please, get off your high horse about all men being rats and treat us with just a tiny bit of respect. Hard-working dads deserve at least that much consideration.